There is an art and science to building strong relationships.
. Maximum output with some simple thoughts...
Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you dont have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.